Today I came across Tracee Ellis Ross' speech at the 2017 Glamour Woman of the Year Summit. And all I can say is that I have a whole knew sense of profound awe of her. To check it out click HERE.
Her speech is very empowering about being single and not having kids. Quite honestly it totally gives me the feels! People criticize me about not having a husband and more importantly not being a mother on the regular. I was just told Saturday at a baby shower that I better have kids because I’m getting “old ovaries”.
😏I
was told Friday that I needed to have a kid before it’s too late.
Working with elderly I’m always told their ever so honest opinion and
have even been told that “no man wants to marry and old woman” as if my
age had reached some imaginary limit for marriage. I’ve left functions,
exam rooms and even phone conversations in tears because everyone thinks
it’s cool to highlight what I’m missing, and it only bothers me because
it’s apart of my desires for my own life. Who needs others to highlight it? I’m a strong person but
there’s only so much you want to deal with. Shall I️ jump into petty
mode and criticize other’s lives?
My desire is simple... to be married before kids. I’ve come this far and this is simply my desire though I️’m grown and responsible enough to do whatever my soul desires at this point. I’ve had recent talks with God about if I have to accept a life alone then I want to adopt a child in a few years, and I’m ready for the percentage of the world who judges that.
The truth is really that MY LIFE is MY LIFE. No one else’s. It’s not meant for you to understand. I attempted to do things right... get me together first so I’d have no regrets personal when starting a family. Only in the past 5 years have I had the freedom for the first time to feel like I’m ready to marry with no hesitation or concern about completing me because “me” had reached my pinnacle of independence and achieved my doctorate. I️ just haven’t been blessed to be graced by my Boaz. It just sucks to be bashed almost daily about what others think should happen in their timing for my life. I’ve had to ask people before if they plan to help financially support my child, pay for my wedding or help with childcare since in my mother’s absence the whole idea gives me anxiety. They look at me dumbfounded then. I’m waiting on God. I just know that when it does happen for me, I’ll be better prepared financially, spiritually, emotionally and physically than most who did it much younger. If it doesn’t then I pray to be ready to be able to accept that and continue to live the best single life that I can live.
Kudos to Tracee Ellis Ross for this beautiful speech. Live in the comfort of you and the choices you make for you. Try watering someone today instead of tearing them down or limiting them to your expectations for their life. #jewelsofknowledge #whatdoesyourgardengrow
Her speech is very empowering about being single and not having kids. Quite honestly it totally gives me the feels! People criticize me about not having a husband and more importantly not being a mother on the regular. I was just told Saturday at a baby shower that I better have kids because I’m getting “old ovaries”.
😏I
was told Friday that I needed to have a kid before it’s too late.
Working with elderly I’m always told their ever so honest opinion and
have even been told that “no man wants to marry and old woman” as if my
age had reached some imaginary limit for marriage. I’ve left functions,
exam rooms and even phone conversations in tears because everyone thinks
it’s cool to highlight what I’m missing, and it only bothers me because
it’s apart of my desires for my own life. Who needs others to highlight it? I’m a strong person but
there’s only so much you want to deal with. Shall I️ jump into petty
mode and criticize other’s lives?My desire is simple... to be married before kids. I’ve come this far and this is simply my desire though I️’m grown and responsible enough to do whatever my soul desires at this point. I’ve had recent talks with God about if I have to accept a life alone then I want to adopt a child in a few years, and I’m ready for the percentage of the world who judges that.
The truth is really that MY LIFE is MY LIFE. No one else’s. It’s not meant for you to understand. I attempted to do things right... get me together first so I’d have no regrets personal when starting a family. Only in the past 5 years have I had the freedom for the first time to feel like I’m ready to marry with no hesitation or concern about completing me because “me” had reached my pinnacle of independence and achieved my doctorate. I️ just haven’t been blessed to be graced by my Boaz. It just sucks to be bashed almost daily about what others think should happen in their timing for my life. I’ve had to ask people before if they plan to help financially support my child, pay for my wedding or help with childcare since in my mother’s absence the whole idea gives me anxiety. They look at me dumbfounded then. I’m waiting on God. I just know that when it does happen for me, I’ll be better prepared financially, spiritually, emotionally and physically than most who did it much younger. If it doesn’t then I pray to be ready to be able to accept that and continue to live the best single life that I can live.
Kudos to Tracee Ellis Ross for this beautiful speech. Live in the comfort of you and the choices you make for you. Try watering someone today instead of tearing them down or limiting them to your expectations for their life. #jewelsofknowledge #whatdoesyourgardengrow
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