A Humbling Moment

Exactly a week ago I got into a little fender bender. My car scraped the rear bumper of another car. Like anyone else I borderline went into freak out mode. My car insurance is already like $340/month so at this point I don't need another at fault accident. Who needs higher car insurance? As I got out to see what damages were done, the driver says, "It's not my car. It's her car", points at the passenger and basically walks off to greet a guy standing in front the store nearby. Meanwhile the passenger gets out and is either texting or checking Instagram but seemingly abounding eye contact. In my mind I'm like, "What the eff is going on?" A cop who details a store nearby walks up and asks do we need him to call in the accident. He then says he's not supposed to give advice but he wants to see the damages. He noticed that both cars were scraped but no major damage. He advises that we don't call the accident on and just exchange info. It's possible that these damages could just be buffed out. I ask the passenger, the owner of the vehicle, what she wants to do. We agree to exchange names and numbers. She refuses my insurance info. She tells me that she literally just bought the car like the day or two before and that she doesn't drive, her sister does. I assured her that I'd have her car handled promptly and would contact her.

My car (that I probably wouldn't even worry about if it was older):

Her car:

Everyone that I told this to after I left the site told me that I shouldn't have given her the correct number or name and so forth. Some were of real concern that this whole thing could go sour. I kept saying that I wouldn't want someone else to do that to me and that's wrong. My thoughts were that this girl doesn't have insurance on this car yet. I doubt she gets anyone else involved or gets too ignorant about it. The same day I get in touch with someone whose family owns a body shop. He tells me I can bring it as soon as I can. I reach out to the girl twice that day. Her responses were vague, saying that she needed her sister to bring her there and doesn't know a thing about the area where the shop is. We cease convo until the next day. I text her again with no response. By day 3 I call her, her sister answers and says she will have her call me back. She never returns my calls so by that night I text her saying that I won't keep trying but she can reach out to me. The next day she texts me the below message... 

 

For someone that message won't mean anything but for me it sent me into tears. That same week I had heard of the hardships of a friend of mine. I had made up in my mind that I would help her, despite my thousands of dollars in taxes that are due, need to renew malpractice insurance, need to get 4 wisdom teeth removed and as of today the need for 4 new shoes (tires) for my car. At the moment I got this text I was taking the money I had withdrawn from my account to fix my car and basically was unknowingly sewing a seed and placing it into an envelope for a friend. This message was confirmation that my actions to do what's right towards this girl in the accident were right and appreciated, and my actions to give despite my own needs to someone in need were right. When the decisions you make align with God, I believe he gives you confirmation. In the end of the day I realize that I am blessed beyond measure. Blessings aren't just material but in the context of this post, my blessing was that I'm employed, I had just sealed an ongoing deal with an employer that same day, and my bills are paid on time and in advance. Although I am in my mind I'm actually not necessarily living from paycheck to paycheck as I did 2+ years ago before I graduated. My complaints about money or wanting more out of life are minor compared to the next person. I may not do everything right, but I know I'm a work in progress. Someone won't always tell you when you are doing what's right but know that there are rewards to doing good deeds and giving to others without doubt or ill feeling. Sometimes life makes you think that wrong doing has good rewards. Those seemingly good rewards have dead ends. 

So what happened with my car? I brought my car to be repaired and the guy was able to buff most of it out. I have a few superficial scratches and 2 or so dents but it's do small till you can't see them from afar. One less unnecessary expense!