Privacy vs. Secrecy

I ran across a post on Instagram that made me want to discuss this topic. Often times we or someone we know has a significant other that no one has seen or met. How can your closest friends not know the name or appearance of your significant other? Now I'm all for people having privacy. I learned to keep my relationship business private when I was young although sometimes I'm human and will have a public meltdown. But there is a fine line between privacy and secrecy. I agree that every picture of you significant other shouldn't all be put on blast on social media, but how can one be married or in a serious relationship and have no relationship status at all online, status of single or even widowed... Yes, it's sad but true. There are strange people in the world who put that they are widowed when their spouse is alive and well. O_O Aren't these all considered ways of trying to keep a secret or hide something? Your coworkers may not need to see your man/lady every time you all go to lunch, but if there's a company event why are you really always flying solo? You want your relationship to be so private that you'd rather be alone? Nope! Sorry folks, but I'm just not buying it. I once dated a guy who told me that he didn't want to put that he was in a relationship on Facebook and link our pages because he didn't want people all in his business. Another said that he didn't want people being jealous of me. While another or maybe the same guy said that he's never done it in the past so why would he start now. Are we really serious? If my page is private, then who gives a damn if my profile picture and name are exposed to your "friends"? Why would a woman be jealous to that degree if you aren't in a relationship with them or never were? Thank God for delivering us all from our past. I also know another person who only exposes pictures of their spouse and relationship status to family on Facebook. Why should only select people know you are married and know what your spouse looks like? Are you ashamed of them? Or just trying to hide them? I understand that these things may be petty to some but for me, if you are going to have a social media account and/or can post pictures of yourself with other people and females then you need to own up to me. If you feel this is unnecessary and breaks your privacy code then perhaps you need to google Webster's definition of privacy and secrecy. The business or happenings of my relationship is considered privacy, but whether or not I exist shouldn't be of question and when it is, that makes me a secret.