To lead or not to lead?

Don't be a duck!

In most instances when you use the verb "lead" there are positive connotations that are associated. Like everything, there is always a con or two. The worst form of leading that someone can do is "lead someone on". The age old phrase unfortunately still exists in 2012. So what does it mean and who is more prone to use it? According to Urban Dictionary it means "to do stuff with someone, without wanting a real relationship with them". Hmmmm... The word "stuff" allows this definition to take on many different meanings. Who does this apply to? Obviously it applies to someone who is involved with someone else knowing that that other person is interested in them in a romantic or sexual manner. I'm one who is pro coed friendships since I think they are the best things since slice bread, but with having a coed friendship some boundaries must be drawn from day one. If you aren't interested let it be known as many times as it's needed. If the person doesn't get a clue then maybe that "friendship" isn't worth your time. I'm not proclaiming the worldwide innocence of females, but I find that a lot of guys are guilty of this. They hang out with females, some introduce them to their mamas, take strolls in the park, go out to dinner in romantic places, take out of town trips, hold hands and make plans, kiss, and some even go as far as having sex with that person, then they wonder why that person wants a "more than just friends" relationship. The cardinal rule of thumb for most men is that you only introduce "the one" to your mother. Why is that you ask? Mama is usually a man's heart, pride and joy, cup of tea, apple of their eye... Bottom line is... she's the ish. You don't introduce every Tom, Dick and Sally to her, let them develop a relationship, hang out, spend the night at your place or mom's, meet her whole family, let her meet yours and then have them all wonder the nature of your relationship and so on. Mamas get attached to any decent person that their child brings home. If they're Christian, responsible, cute, hard working, respectable, pleasant and can cook (mostly for the ladies but always a plus in my book for the fellas), they're already a winner in most mother's eyes. Once you introduce them to Mama, you have now opened the door for her to ask the endless questions about the nature of your relationship and egg on what they want to happen for you. So why would you introduce Sue, your "friend" to your mama knowing that Sue likes you. A woman's biggest accomplishment in the start of a relationship is knowing that she's important enough to meet your mom. If you are in a relationship and haven't met Mama and she lives in town then you need to question your standpoint in this man's life. If every "friend" has met the family, then what makes you so special? Is it that you really don't want Sue or is it that you like the attention of a woman who hopelessly chases you? It all comes across as selfishness on the behalf of this type of leader. Grab your balls and tell that person that you just aren't that into them! Elaborate if you must. Cut ties if it comes to it. In the end of the day, they will appreciate your forwardness over days, months, and/or years of being led on.

*Sigh*... 

My name is Dr.SunShine.504, and I've been a follower (or led on) in my lifetime, but I haven't been a leader (or led any on) to my knowledge... what's your story?

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