How much for extra baggage?

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I, like everyone else, am guilty of carrying quite a deal of baggage in my life. Not just my Coach handbag that's filled to capacity, but my life in general seems to have some baggage. But who doesn't right? Everything from the scars of a relationship gone wrong, to childhood experiences, to the lack of a true "daddy's girl" experience, to previous bouts with esteem issues, and so forth. Being that we all contain some form of it, how much is too much? How much are you really willing to accept from a potential significant other? How much baby mama drama can one bear? How much leeching family members can one maintain? How long is too long for a woman to be scorn? How promiscuous is too promiscuous? Are you willing to accept permanent STDs? What about criminal records? How many kids are too many? These are all quite reasonable questions in my opinion if you are considering having what I consider an adult-like relationship with someone. We all are beyond high school or even middle school for those who started dating that young. Your standards should elevate as your life does. With that being said, I'm one to believe that one must accept what they will be able to one day offer. It disturbs me when certain women want only the man who has the doctorate, nice car, and so forth yet they are a receptionist at the local health clinic. 

Of all the baggage that one can have, there's one piece of baggage that has crossed my path numerous times that may shock a few. I know that everyone's past is exactly that, THE PAST. But we all have the right to choose how much of it we want to accept from another person. So here goes... How does one deal with dating/marrying/courting someone who was previously gay or even (for those who are gay) straight in a past life? I've always been one to attract every type of man imaginable. Unfortunately, this doesn't exclude the curious men who have dated men or dallied with the concept. Let me clarify that by no means am I nor is my current beau or any from my past battling with this concept. I love STRAIGHT MEN to the fullest potential... in ways too graphic for words. Lol. I've just always had the tendency to attract what I will consider bi-curious men. I don't know what it is about me or what makes them pursue me, but it seems to always happen. Maybe I just have good genes or nice teeth. Lol. I really don't understand what it is. I've been told a few years back that if this one guy ever decided to date/marry/impregnate a woman, then that woman would have to be me. I don't know if that's an honor, a curse or if that makes me throw up in my mouth all at the same time. I think it's enough for any one woman to have to compete with other women lurking near or in their relationship. But who on earth wants to compete with men too?! Is that a question that even needs to be asked? Certainly you can't be over a whole gender in a day. This isn't like being over a food item because it made you sick. It's just not that easy. I believe it's just as hard as a drug addict battling with sobriety. I'm not saying it's impossible, because with God, all things are possible. I'm just saying that it's a life long battle. If hoping to switch from one gender to the next, you need to first of all make sure that your person of interest is indeed interested and furthermore willing to embark on a journey with an individual with such heavy weight baggage. If the answer is no to that then you are clearly barking up the wrong tree. 

I've heard numerous reasons for why one may have made a life choice to date the same sex including issues with acceptance, nature vs nurture issues and rape. I'm not going to be the judge of who is right or wrong, but I will say that I follow a Christian upbringing in the fact that I believe that God created Adam (man) to be a counterpart/mate/better half for Eve (woman). I am friends with and related to those who may think otherwise and it doesn't change the way I may treat them. I'm just a strong believer that if I don't enforce my beliefs on you, then by all means respect my beliefs and feelings as well. If that offends anyone then you clearly need to take that up with your Maker. Clearly, I think this may very well be the one thing I can put on the top of my guaranteed limit for extra baggage list as if it's a tree topper. Unlike airlines who accept your baggage when it's overweight for an outrageous fee, I am COMPLETELY declining all services. There just isn't anything that can change my mind. Some may consider it a loss, but as I'm sure my friends have heard me state before, "THIS right HERE, isn't Build-a-Bear and certainly isn't Build-a-Man." My job isn't to create a real man out of anyone. That's one quality that is a requirement. This can not be negotiated and ones with such issues certainly don't provide ANY substantial competition for the wonderful dose of straight men that exist. Lol. 

So what's the one piece of baggage that you won't accept? How much is too much extra baggage?