Love is Ever Evolving

I think the purest, most undefiled love is that of a child, and even that is second to the love of Christ. They don't know hate, heart break and so forth. As adults, we have a tainted form of love that we attempt to share and spread with others. Many of us are unaware of just how tainted we are. We carry a love that we think is correct, but a lot of times, it needs watering and the tools for growth and healing just like everything else. Sometimes you just have to learn how to love someone the way they need to be loved. Likewise sometimes you need to understand the way someone can love you. Not everyone loves in the same manner. Just because Kim liked for you to check on her every hour around the clock, doesn't mean the Lisa likes or needs the same, yet it doesn't mean you shouldn't put forth effort to see what she likes or needs. Don't assume. That's probably the worse thing that you can do. Until you can channel into the way your significant other's heart works, you will struggle and often time fail. How do you channel into that? The first thing I can say is to be open minded, but your significant other needs to be as well. Don't rule out something just because your last significant other says they don't want it or require it. Don't limit your mind to think that this is only about sex. There is far too much more to life and loving someone than sex. We all require something different or sometimes the same thing but carried out or executed differently. Don’t be narrow minded enough to believe that every female or every man is the same and has the same needs. Though we can safely say there are some general things that you as a woman or man need to do for your significant other. You can’t grow with a closed mindset. There are too many men walking around making the statement of "As a man, I don't know..." I can't speak on women on this because I know women who know things about the man from up and down, side to side, inside and out. Just because you're a man doesn't mean it's excusable to not know how to spoil your woman. You should know what size clothes, bra and shoes she wears. You should know what brand makeup she loves. It's quite easy to know these things whether through conversation, checking with a friend or relative, or just simply checking their things when they're not looking. Sometimes just knowledge and effort concerning the little things goes a long way. Love is not just shown through material things though many of us can appreciate a person who buys a thoughtful gift. Take time to learn how your mate wants to be talked to. When they are bothered do they function better if left alone for a while or do they want to talk right away? Do they want you being clingy at the next family gathering or going to hang out in the man cave with the men or the kitchen with the women? These are all things that I preach to myself about as I type... Everyone needs a little watering... Love is ever evolving because it's unconditional nature. Make sure your effort towards expressing and ability to love is along for the ride. #foodforthought #jewelsofknowledge #whatdoesyourgardengrow