He-Said-She-Said

We all have been faced with trying times... Some of us get more than others. I've been through lots of frustrating events, but the most recent is one that baffles me the most. The extremes that people go through to feel like they have the upper hand in a situation or to try to ruin someone's reputation and image. I've never had to play such immature games. If you have beef with me then address me. Don't create lies on social media or round up your friends for them to take action then hide your hand when asked about it. In my life I've been accused and rumored of being a hoe, pregnant, thinking I'm all that, having abortions, being a home wrecker, having STDs and so forth. You name it and people have tried to associate my name with it. The reality is that I can't control what people think of me. I can't control what rumors they start or continue. I think people get bored with me because it's often hard to find what it is that you can really hate about me. It's honestly always a very small minority that come up with these things in order to make them feel better about themselves. Truth is, I've never dated a married man to my knowledge, never been pregnant, never stole unless we include a ball of Play-doh that I took from school in Kindergarten, STD-less, celibate since December 2008 and don't actively go around seeking and starting mess and drama. My circle is small and the people I trust is even smaller. I am a Christian which doesn't equal perfection but limits me in my thoughts being carried out into action. I am who I am... If anyone questions that then come to the source directly and you will get your answer. I'm too old and have way too much going for myself to be bothered by child's play or people who have nothing better to do. I'm being charged for being someone's friend... Not just a friend, but I'll proclaim this person as one of my 3 Aces... My best friend. Someone whom I have shared things with that I can't or don't with anyone else. I think of it as that old school blood bond that the little boy and the Indian had on the "Indian and the Cupboard". No one can come between that... situations may occur to cause complete chaos, but eventually, after things calm down, it only makes my bond with my aces stronger.  It's unfortunate what jealousy, childishness and stupidity can lead to. He-said-she-said can result in people being physically harmed, reputations to be tainted, or their livelihood can be effected. Real friends provide good ears and rational forms of comfort. They hold you up when others let you fall. Most importantly, they don't encourage stupidity, irrational thoughts, immaturity, and so forth. Check yourself and your intentions before you get involved in someone else's business. Stop letting your friends cause you to hate someone and do hateful things towards someone that you have never met. Check who your friends are and what they may have you involved in later that you can't get out of. There are 3 sides to ever story, both involved parties' sides and the truth. It's amazing how one person's lies and assumptions can cause a whole plethora of events to spiral out of control. You are known by the company you keep, and my company includes a circle of positive, non-ghetto, non-messy, non-"he-said-she-said" people. I'm living my life for me and no one else... But my Aces, my family, and my circle are what I consider irreplaceable features. Step your circle up.